Thursday, February 28, 2013

Jared Wilson: Wormtongue Speaks Today

Jared Wilson:
“Did God actually say . . . ?” Genesis 3:1 
In Tolkien’s The Two Towers we are introduced to Grima Wormtongue who, under the pretense of caring for Theoden the King, has wickedly ingratiated himself and usurped his moral authority. Indeed, as Wormtongue’s influence over Thedoen grows, the king’s power dissipates. In the Peter Jackson film, we see this vividly in the way Theoden is depicted as a mere shell of a man, somewhat skeletal with a gray pallor and dull, glazed eyes. His counselor has a parasitic effect. It’s a dramatic link, to be sure, but I think of this relationship when I ponder the ambitions of the emergents, the neo-evangelicals, or whatever they’re calling themselves now (or not calling themselves) in seeking to commandeer the the conversation of the evangelical movement. “Christianity must change or die,” a satanic bishop wrote a few years back. His spiritual progeny are catching up to agree with new books and new publishing houses, new conferences, blogs, and talk shows. But we’ve seen the trajectory for years. They can take us no place worth going. Talking out of both sides of their mouths, we ought not be surprised when the forked tongues become more evident. 
Professing to be wise, they reveal themselves to be fools. “Did God actually say?” they begin. Then they’ll tell you the answer: “No.” Before long, they insist the gospel cannot expand in this brave new world without a brave new faith that coddles disbelief and calls sin virtue. When you get right down to it, the whole enterprise is nonsensical and self-defeating. Cultural rebukes from a relativistic reading of the Scriptures and of historic orthodoxy guts any presumed authority in the rebuke from the outset. In a comment thread at one of these wormtongue-y blogs I read someone’s defense of the use of p()rnography in a marriage, arguing the need to respect differing values. The commenter also maintained that complementarian marriages were evil. “Get a brain, morans,” indeed. 
The wizard Gandalf’s rebuke of the parasitic Wormtongue is fitting. In Tolkien’s book: 
“Down snake!” he said suddenly in a terrible voice. “Down on your belly! How long is it since Saruman bought you? What was the promised price? 
Well, the expected reward is the same stuff they accuse prominent evangelicals of greed for: money, power, prestige. Here is the rebuke as depicted in Jackson’s film adaptation:
Be silent. Keep your forked tongue behind your teeth. I have not passed through fire and death to bandy crude words with a witless worm.
Church, only let us hold true to what we have attained (Philipians 3:16). In the days coming, a regular re-reading of the book of Jude might be in order. The talking faces of the post-evangelical Jello salad want to help evangelicals navigate the uncharted waters of post-Christendom. But Jesus gave us plenty of words about unfaithful stewards and hired hands. We can learn nothing from the heterodox about navigating “the future of evangelicalism” except how to shut the engines off and drift.

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

The Bible: An Interview with Mark Burnett and Roma Downey

The Bible is a miniseries that will be on the History Channel, starting on March 3rd. When I first saw the promos for this, I thought it was going to be just another History Channel take on Christianity and the Bible, which tend to be...less than faithful to the actual Bible and thus not very encouraging. I had no idea Mark Burnett and his wife were believers, so I didn't have very high expectations.

After watching this interview they did with Lifeway, however, I'm intrigued. They are believers who seem to have thrown their collective weight in the industry behind getting this project done and put in front of millions for the purpose of spreading the gospel. Of course, it remains to be seen whether or not this will be a faithful portrayal of the biblical story (the trailer below gives some hints as to the answer to that question), but I'm definitely going to be watching and hoping.



You can watch the interview here, and here's a transcript of some of the conversation:
LifeWay.com: What inspired you to create The Bible miniseries? 
Mark Burnett: We're at the point of our careers now where we've been so blessed with abundant success in television, that we get a chance to do things that we really want to do and we love the Bible. We love it in terms of faith. But it also happens to be the most important book in the history of the world, the fabric of society. The set of laws. Tells us who we are. How to live. And what a great opportunity. So we decided you know to stick our necks out a little bit and make The Bible. And we were able to get it made. And it's so exciting. 
Roma Downey: We felt called to do it though a real prompting from the Holy Spirit. It just nudged and nudged and there have been times I have felt in our marriage that maybe we were brought together for such a time as this - that we've been able to bring our combined strengths and talents and experience and the platform that we've been given. We've prayed every step of the way that the right people would be drawn to us. Obviously to create something on this scale has required an enormous amount of people every step of the way. We drew great and experienced teams to us. 
And it's been a wonderful experience. And to be able to work together shoulder to shoulder, arm in arm, and still be speaking to each other is a testament to our love. But this is, for us, something that we expect to be seen by more people than have seen anything else that we have created in our careers collectively combined. The potential for this to reach dark corners of the world that have never been exposed to the Bible or the great stories of the Bible or the words of the Gospel. There is great potential for this and we are very excited by that. 
LifeWay.com: What kind of impact do you want to have with The Bible? 
Roma: The best-case scenario for us is that there's an opportunity here for people to be discussing the Bible at the water cooler the day after this has aired. You know that seems so exciting that it just will stimulate conversation. 
I think several things will happen. The faithful will find us and I think that that audience will see the beautiful stories come to life in new, fresh visual ways on screen. But there's an opportunity here for many people who are unchurched or who have never read the Bible that it will show them just how amazing the Bible is and maybe draw people to it. That people will pick the book off the shelf and go back to it. 
I myself am a very visual learner. I think everything I know I learned from the movies. If I've seen it, it anchors it in my mind. And even for us going back in now when we read the Bible, informed by the images and the characters that have played them in our movie, it brings it to life in a different kind of a way. And I think that's very exciting. 
Mark: We've tried to make this Bible series youthful, vibrant, and make it look like a major motion picture. I think we succeed with that and made it emotionally connected. Clearly we're not qualified to teach the Bible. This isn't the Bible. This is a connected piece of television which will make you love parts of the Bible and ideally make you read the book. 
People who really know the Bible we'll say, "Oh, I forgot about that or I don't remember that part." That's what's so great. It will make people say, "I'm going to look that up." I think that biblical literacy is at an all-time low, and it's incumbent upon us with our influence in the entertainment business to use our power to get a series like this on television which will cause millions to engage with the Bible either for the first time or again. That's what we want to come out of this. And we hope people will love it. 
LifeWay.com: How have the Scriptures become important to you? 
Mark: I can't remember when the Bible wasn't in my house growing up. But there's no question, once you take on a project, The Bible, for television and in books, it's incumbent — it's been years now of studying it, reading it more and loving it more. And also putting images to the stories on a television miniseries like this, you start to imprint in your mind those images so when you read the Bible or pray, you now have those visual images flooding into you and it just makes it closer. And hopefully that same experience that I've had with that, millions and millions of people around the world will also have. For some people, by the way, this series may be their first ever time they'll touch the Bible and think about the Bible. So I think it's exciting to spread the Gospel, spread the Word and to evangelize in this way. 
Roma: I think it would be true to say that from working on this that it has deepened our faith. That would be a very accurate statement.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Kevin DeYoung: What Someone Needs to Say

Pretty well said by Kevin DeYoung:
The next time—and there will be a next time—some famous Christian is pilloried in the press for maybe, possibly, at some point now or in the past holding to the traditional view of marriage, I hope he (or she) will come up to the microphone and say something like this: 
Thanks for coming out today. I’ll try to make this brief and get right to the point.  
Some people are really upset because they think I believe God does not approve of homosexual behavior. Well, I’d like to clarify: that is what I believe. Like everyone I believe some actions are good and some are not. We all have some form of morality. Thankfully, on a lot of topics most everyone agrees. Almost everybody agrees that murder is wrong and stealing is wrong and telling a bold-faced lie is wrong. But on other topics, we don’t all agree. That’s part of life. That’s part of being human. We have different views on raising children, on religion, on sex before marriage, on marriage itself, and on a hundred other issues.  
I’m a Christian. That doesn’t mean I think I’m better than anyone. In fact, I’m a Christian because I know how bad I am and that I need a Savior. But as a Christian I believe the Bible. I believe God is smarter than I am. I believe God tells us about himself, tells us how to be saved, and tells us how to live in this book. That’s actually what most Americans have believed about the Bible throughout our history. I understand that some people in this country don’t believe in God or the Bible. I understand that some people interpret the Bible differently. But I think the Bible is pretty clear that sex is a gift to be experienced in the context of marriage between a man and a woman. I’m challenged by this teaching too. I am tempted to sin in a thousand different ways, including ways that involve my sexuality. But if God tells me what’s right and wrong in the Bible, I have to trust him. If Jesus is really Lord, then he gets to the call the shots.  
I don’t expect everyone in a free country to agree that Jesus Christ is Savior and Lord or that the Bible is the inspired word of God. But in a free country I expect that we can hold to different views without automatically resorting to shame and ridicule. I hope that my fans will understand that we can still root for the same team or watch the same movies even if we believe in some different things. I also hope my critics will try to understand why billions of people all around the world believe what I do about God, the Bible, Jesus Christ, faith, and marriage.  
So the short answer to your question is: Yes I do still believe God designed sex for marriage between a man and a woman. And yes, I’m still accepting the invitation to speak. I don’t fault you for you doing your job. And I don’t deny your right to disagree with me in the strongest terms. But I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m not going to let you dictate the terms of this conversation. I’m not going to be intimidated by bad press. And I’m not going to live my whole life trying to prove that I’m something I’m not. It ain’t gonna happen. 
I’m a Bible-believing Christian. There, I said it. I’m out of the closet.  I’m not bitter. I’m not on a crusade. I just think it’s time to stand up and say enough is enough. I don’t like making people angry. But I can’t live my life to make you happy.  
I don’t think I have anything else to say about the subject. If you want to know what I believe and what Christians are like, I’d be happy to take you with me to church anytime. I hope you all have a great day, because that’s what I plan on having now that this is over. 
I don’t know exactly what Louie Giglio or Tim Tebow should have said or done. I’m not privy to all the information or behind-the-scenes conversation. This post isn’t about the past. It’s about what is coming in our future. At some point (and many points actually), Christians need to simply take it on the chin, not back down, affirm the truth, put in a good word for Jesus, and keep on smiling.

Monday, February 25, 2013

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Russell Moore - Why The Afterlife Bores Us

Russell Moore:
But just think about that word “afterlife.” It assumes eternity is an endless postlude to where the action really happens. It’s “after.” Our “reward” happens after we’ve lived our lives. Here’s why this language matters. 
Imagine a couple referring to their marriage as their “after-love.” They explain to you that years ago they met, fell in love, and married. The years since are their “after-love” years, since they follow their falling in love with each other. You would, no doubt, ask whether they still loved each other and, if so, why they would relegate their lives together now as “after” anything, and why they seem to put their “love” in the past tense.  You would think they were downgrading marriage and missing out on joy by talking like that. 
And you’d be right. 
Too many Christians see the hope of resurrection life as a capstone on their lives now. We implicitly assume that our focus in the new creation is a backward focus on our lives as they are now. 
We talk about all the questions we’ll ask about why this or that happened. We never think about whether we’ll be too busy to care about that, just like we’re too busy in the prime of our careers to ask our kindergarten teacher why she had snack time after recess rather than before. We talk about our reunion with loved ones, but even they often implicitly have a past focus. 
A high school reunion can be fun. You catch up with old friends, and remember good and bad times. But the focus is usually on “remember when” and “whatever happened to” conversations. That’s great for an hour or four, but four trillion years of that would be hell. That’s not what Jesus promised us. He promised us life. 
If we miss this, then we become just like those with no hope. We talk about our “bucket lists” of what we have to do before we’re gone since “you only live once.” We worry about our future and we nurse grudges because we fear our lives can be ruined by circumstances instead of by sin. We essentially move into the same old “eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow you shall die” except that we cap it with “…and then you’ll stand around with your loved ones singing songs and staring at a light for a quadrillion years and then some.” 
God forbid. 
Your eternity is no more about looking back to this span of time than your life now is about reflecting on kindergarten. The moment you burst through the mud above your grave, you will begin an exciting new mission—one you couldn’t comprehend if someone told you. And those things that seem so important now—whether you’re attractive or wealthy or famous or cancer-free—will be utterly irrelevant in the face of an exhilarating new purpose, one that you were prepared for in this era but one that is far more than a mere sequel to your best life now. 
Let’s talk about eternity. But it’s no mere “afterlife.” Instead let’s start thinking of this little puff of time, the next eighty or so years, as what it is: the pre-life.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Google Glass

This is pretty insane. Crazy to think what kinds of things my kids might have when they are my age.



HT: 22 Words

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

The Drop Box [Documentary Trailer]

SynopsisIn December 2009, a Korean pastor named Lee Jong-rak built a wooden "drop box" on the outer wall of his home. But the box wasn't intended for clothing, food, or school supplies, it was meant to collect unwanted babies. 
When "the drop box" "or "baby box" was constructed a few years ago, it flew completely under the radar of Korean government officials. However, as more and more children arrive in this box every week, the nation is starting to take notice. 
Lee knows that his little wooden box isn't the best solution, but his plight points to a much larger issue of abandonment, both in Korea, and across the globe. 
As a simple man, with little education and no public notoriety, Lee was voiceless, much like the children he has sworn to protect. 
Soon, the whole world will know his story.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Al Mohler's List of 10 Books Pastors Should Read

Al Mohler's "2012 Preaching Survey of the Year’s Best Books for Preachers” is out. There is a summary article detailing many of the books, and the article ends with his Top 10 list. I've only been able to read 2 of these so far (Pennington and Goldsworthy), so I'm looking forward to the others.

  1. The Juvenilization of American Christianity by Thomas E. Bergler (Eerdmans)
  2. Sojourners and Strangers: The Doctrine of the Church by Gregg R. Allison (Crossway)
  3. Reading the Gospels Wisely: A Narrative and Theological Introduction by Jonathan T. Pennington (Baker Academic)
  4. Christ-Centered Biblical Theology: Hermeneutical Foundations and Principles by Graeme Goldsworthy (InterVarsity Press)
  5. Through the Eye of a Needle: Wealth, the Fall of Rome, and the Making of Christianity in the West, 350-550 AD by Peter Brown (Princeton University Press)
  6. Coming Apart: The State of White America, 1960-2010 by Charles Murray (Crown Forum)
  7. The Intolerance of Tolerance by D. A. Carson (Eerdmans)
  8. Bad Religion: How We Became a Nation of Heretics by Ross Douthat (Free Press)
  9. God Is Love: A Biblical and Systematic Theology by Gerald Bray (Crossway)
  10. Delighting in the Trinity: An Introduction to the Christian Faith by Michael Reeves (InterVarsity Press)
HT:JT

Music Video of the Week: New Life Worship

New Life Worship - "Great I Am"

Friday, February 15, 2013

Piper: The Sadness and Beauty of Paul's Final Words

John Piper preached in chapel on Thursday, and, as expected, it was really, really good. I think everyone preparing for ministry should watch this. So much wisdom here.

The Sadness and Beauty of Paul's Final Words from Southern Seminary on Vimeo.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

5 Things Every Son Needs to Hear From His Dad

Daniel Darling:
[T]he job of raising a son is a noble and important task. It is a job many men abdicate, leading to what is now a full-blown crisis in our country: a crisis of fatherhood. Look up the statistics when you have time and you will see that a very high percentage of young men in prison experienced little or no involvement from Dad. In my pastoral role, I’ve seen the devastating effects of a father’s absence or lack of leadership in the life of his son.
Fathering your sons is a serious job, men. And so in that spirit, I’d like to offer five things every son needs to hear from his father: 
1) You are lovedEvery boy needs to hear and know that his father loves him. Without this affirmation, a man carries deep wounds that affect his most important relationships. I’ve talked to men at all stages of life who yearn to hear those magic words that mean the most when they come from Dad: I love you. Today, my son is only four years old, so it’s easy for me to do this. I suspect as he gets older, it will become a bit more awkward. But I plan on doing it still. Behind the sometimes rough exterior of every young boy is a heart that longs to experience the love of his father. What you don’t realize is that the first image your boy will have of his Heavenly Father will be the image of the human father looking down on him. So tell your boy you love him. 
2) I’m proud of you. I can’t tell you how many men I know who, to this day, are still living their lives in search of their fathers’ approval. Down deep in their hearts they wonder, Am I good enough? Did I make it? Is Dad proud? I’m learning that it’s important for us dads to be hard on our sons in many ways (see below), but we should never withhold our approval. They need to know, at periodic junctures in their lives, that they measure up, that there is nothing they have to do to earn our favor. Sure, at times they will disappoint and they should know and feel this. And yet we should not be taskmasters who, in trying to motivate our sons to greatness, withhold the very ingredient that will fuel their success: confidence. I’m reminded of God’s approval of Jesus as His Son was baptized by John the Baptist. “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased. (Matthew 3:17Mark 19:35). Yes, there are important theological ramifications to that phrase beyond mere approval, but still I can’t help see God’s approval for Jesus as a model for our relationship with our sons. If your son doesn’t make Division 1, if he gets accepted into a school other than Harvard, if he becomes a truck driver instead of a pastor, don’t ever give him the impression you like him less. Don’t damage his soul this way. 
3) You are not a slacker, you’re a soldier. Today the culture presents such a confusing picture of manhood. What is a man supposed to be, anyways? Pop culture tells him he’s sort of unnecessary and the best he can do is idle away his adolescence by satisfying his sexual urges, simulating warfare with a joystick, and lacking any kind of noble ambition. But God did not make your son or my son to be a slacker, but a soldier. Now don’t get uptight about the word soldier. It’s okay to encourage our sons to be masculine. This doesn’t have to mean a deer hunting, truck driving survivalist. Plenty of real men sip lattes, drive minivans, and hate camouflage (guys like me). There is a vision of manhood in the Bible, one of nobility and strength, of sacrifice and courage. A real man fights for what he loves. A real man cherishes the woman God gives him. He doesn’t exploit her. A real man pursues that calling God has stamped upon his soul, one that is discovered through intimacy with God, identification with gifts and talents, and meeting the world’s deep needs (to paraphrase Buechner). Nobody can help guide our sons along their mission more than us fathers. Let’s not leave our sons’ futures to chance. Let’s stand beside them, modeling for them what it looks like to live on purpose. 
4) Hard Work is a Gift, Not a Curse. Idleness, laziness, and indecision are the devil’s best tools for ruining the lives of young men. Guys, our sons needs to see us work hard and to be encouraged, made to work hard. They need to see that work is harder because of the Fall, but was actually given by God to experience His pleasure. Getting our hands dirty, straining, struggling, sweating–these are all good things, not bad. Sadly many young men have not seen what it actually looks like for a man to work. Let’s show them that work brings joy. Work honors God. Work done well brings glory to the creator. It may be done with fingers on a keyboard or by swinging an ax-head or by maneuvering a fork lift. It can be done in air-conditioned offices, muddy swamps, and underneath a car. But make no mistake: work matters and what we do with our hands, done well, is a testament to the Creator. 
5) You are gifted, but you are not God. Let’s imbue our sons with a sense of confidence, of approval, of dignity. But let’s remind them that while they are gifted by the Creator, they are actually not God. Let’s teach them that genuine masculinity doesn’t strut. It bows. It picks up a towel and washes feet. A real man is as comfortable praying as he is preaching. He knows that his strength isn’t found in his exploits or what he thinks people think of him. His strength comes from God. This humility will fuel his compassion and will allow him to forgive those who deeply wound him. Let’s let our sons know that their lives really begin, not when they walk down the aisle at 18 or when they get their first employment contract or when they fall in love with a woman. Their lives began on a dusty hill 2,000 years ago, at the foot of a Roman cross, where justice and forgiveness met in the bloody sacrifice of their Savior. Let’s teach them that to live their whole lives without Jesus is like playing a concerto on the deck of the Titanic. It’s beautiful while it lasts, but it ultimately ends with sorrow. If we do anything at all with our sons, men, let’s point them to the Jesus we know.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

5 Things Every Daughter Needs to Hear From Her Dad

Daniel Darling:
I love having daughters. There is something about having a daughter that softens a man, adds a certain tenderness to his soul. In that spirit, I’d like to share five things every daughter needs to hear from her father: 
1) You are beautiful and you are loved. This is something you should tell your daughter at least once a day and probably more than that. Telling her once every so often doesn’t cut it. I’m no psychologist, but daughters who know their father loves them grow up with more confidence and tend to avoid looking for love in all the wrong places. Hearing she is beautiful is oxygen for your daughter’s soul. So do it often, in different and creative ways. 
2) Your mother is beautiful and she is loved. The best gift you can give your daughter is to show her how a man treats a woman. Let her see modeled in you, however imperfectly, the God-given love between a man and a woman. Tell your wife daily that she is beautiful, that you love her, and that you are glad you married her. Tell her you are committed to her for life. And say these things, periodically, in front of your children. 
3) You belong to God and were created for his glory. Girls frequently battles insecurity over a number of issues: their weight, their looks, their friends. Maybe sometimes they feel unimportant or unwanted, even in a home with love. This is why you, as a father, should remind them often that they are special creations formed lovingly by the Creator in His image. You should read with them the words of David, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made,” from Psalm 139. That passage should be well-worn in your Bible and something internalized by your daughters for moments of doubt. 
4) You are forgiven. Your girls will mess up. They will sin. They will disappoint you. And if you don’t have the good news of the gospel at the center of your family, she may grow up wondering how to measure up or what to do with her sins. Evangelize your daughter and then disciple her. Train in her in the vital Christian practice of repentance and forgiveness. Repentance for her sin and forgiveness of others’ sins. Let her know that Christ is always ready with fresh supplies of grace. Let her know that she must apply that grace not only to herself, but toward others who will wound her. 
5) You are accepted. Whatever you do, don’t let your daughter consume the poison of the culture which measures a woman’s worth by her independence, by her ability to give away freely her purity. Don’t for a moment let her swallow the lie that sexual license is anything but a bondage of the worst kind, the enemy’s way of stealing the creativity and beauty and purpose for which she was created. Teach her what to look for in a man (hint: not the slackers you see on TV). Also: be that man so she knows what it looks like. Make her aware of the beautiful image of womanhood painted by the Creator. Her acceptance, her sense of self, her worth are bound up in her unique calling as God’s daughter.

Monday, February 11, 2013

Music Video of the Week: Mumford and Sons

In light of their album, Babel, winning the Grammy for album of the year last night, had to go with a Mumford song today.

Mumford and Sons - "I Will Wait"

Friday, February 8, 2013

The Village Church: Raging Strong

I listened to new album from The Village Church, Raging Strong, during my run this morning. I really enjoyed God of Victory, and this album is quite different, but still really good. They utilize some more traditional worship styles on a few songs, but they also have rap and spoken word throughout. Some really good stuff from Isaac Wimberley.

Here's the promo video for the album:

Raging Strong Album "Now Available" from The Village Church on Vimeo.

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Really Helpful Post on Parenting Young Children

Steve McCoy has a great post about parenting young children and the lessons he and his wife have learned over the years. Some really helpful wisdom.

Here are some of the standouts tips he gives:
  • Believe Kids Are A Blessing | Our world sees kids as a burden. The Scriptures tell us they are a blessing from the Lord. In your thinking about your children, in all you do as a parent, remember & trust that God has given them to you as a blessing. It will change how you see them and how you parent them. It hopefully will even change how many of them you have. Who wouldn't want MORE blessing? 
  • Teach *First Time Obedience* | When Dad or Mom says do it, they do it. We are the parents. They are kids. Why is this important? Do you want them to obey God the first time, or to put it off? Also, if they don't obey us there are often major consequences in the future. Sometimes if they don't obey there are major consequences in the very near future. Example: We taught our children to *stop* when we say stop. We didn't chase them around at parties or baseball games or at the park. We say stop, they were taught to stop or face discipline. One of our kids was bad about running through parking lots on the way in to a store. Our *first time obedience* teaching probably saved his life or at least bodily harm more than once. But the everyday, simple things will create disciplined & respectful kids. It will also shock people around you and create opportunities to talk about why your parenting "works." My pastor once had one child ask for a chip (adults were eating chips) and he said "Ok." Another of his children overheard and came over and asked for a chip. He said "No." The child, without hesitation, said "ok" and walked away. My pastor then told him to return and explained how happy he was that he was willing to trust him and obey even when it seemed unfair, and then gave him a chip. That's the power of this one rule when taught consistently. ALSO, don't use the counting rule. When you count you are telling your kids they can delay obedience. "Johnny, get your coat on. Johnny! One...twooooo..." Not obeying now is disobedience. Period. Well, almost period...
  • The Five Minute Rule (Warning) | One of the GREAT pieces of advice was using a 5 minute rule for preparing your kids to transition. Example: Kids are playing at McDonald's Playland. We don't just say "Let's go." We give them a 5 minute warning. This, to them, is permission to play longer as well as preparation that the end is near. That way when expecting *first time obedience* we aren't creating frustrated kids who were having a blast and then had parents drop the bomb on fun time. We almost never had an issue leaving something fun while other parents struggled and yelled. Such a helpful rule. This rule also works for bedtime, before leaving for something, etc. ALSO, after doing this for a bit all I would have to do when one of the kids would look at me from the playground is hold up my hand with 5 fingers and they would call out to each other "FIVE MINUTES!" So, so helpful.
  • Pre-Event Preparation/Conversation | When going to meet with other people, go to a party with other families, go to a movie, whatever, we would have a short talk in the car. It was our way of preparing the kids for what was coming as well as setting our expectations for how they would act when they arrived. Example: Heading to a small group Bible study. We'd tell the kids where we were going, to remember to say "Yes Mam" or "No Mam" when asked something, to be quiet during prayer time, to be generous and let other kids play with toys, and so on. Set them up for success by reminding them just before an event of your expectations.
  • Ask Your Kids To Forgive You | You will fail. Often. Tell your kids that you do, when you do, and ask their forgiveness. We've asked our kids several times to forgive us for not requiring *first time obedience* (when we've grown slack), for example.
  • Kiss Your Spouse In Front Of Them | It blesses your kids beyond measure to know their parents love each other and want to show it. Comforting. Brings a confidence in your marriage when many of their friends' parents are getting divorced.
  • Talking Back To Mom Is Talking Back To My Wife | I tell my kids that if/when they talk back to Mom, they are talking back to my wife (not merely their Mom). She was my wife before she became their Mom, and that means something. 
  • Teach Your Kids God Loves Them More Than You | It doesn't mean I love them less than I should, but that God's love is beyond comparison.

How to Write a Worship Song in 5 Minutes

It's sad that this is pretty much true...

Friday, February 1, 2013

Allstate's "Mayhem" and Creation/Fall

I love the Allstate Mayhem commercials, and I thought this one was quite funny. It's the first commercial that will be aired after the Super Bowl on Sunday.

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